How Common is Dating Abuse?
- One in three young people experience some form of physical or sexual violence.
- Dating abuse can happen to anyone regardless of gender, sexual orientation, socioeconomic standing, ethnicity, religion or culture.
- Most experience intimate partner violence for the first time before the age of 25.
- Three in four parents have never talked to their children about domestic violence.
- Abuse can take many forms: emotional/verbal; financial; physical; sexual, stalking and digital.
If you are a young person in an abusive relationship, talk with a peer advocate. Text “loveis” to 22522 or call 1-866-331-9474.
Resources to Help Teens Stay Safe
- The Love is Not Abuse app is an educational resource for parents that demonstrates the dangers of digital dating abuse and provides much needed information on the growing problem of teen dating violence and abuse.
- Circle of 6 is an app for college-aged students and their friends to stay close, stay safe, and prevent violence before it happens. It takes two touches to get help and they use icons to represent actions, so that no one can tell what you're up to if they see your phone. The design ensures safety, speed and privacy.
- The myPlan app offers an assessment to determine if a relationship is unsafe. This results in a score representing the danger from variable to extreme and helps create an action plan. It is anonymous and protected by a pin.
24/7 National Hotlines
- Teen Dating Abuse Helpline: 1-866-331-9474
- National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-4673
- Trevor Lifeline (for LGBTQ* youth): 1-866-488-7386
- National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255
- National Runaway Safeline: 1-800-786-2929
- National Domestic Violence Hotline - 1-800-799-7233
- National Hotline for Crime Victims: 1-855-484-2846
- National Street Harassment Hotline: 1-855-897-5910
Teen Dating Violence Awareness
- Teen dating violence awareness is a national effort to raise awareness about dating abuse.
- Promotes programs that supports young people
- Encourages communities to prevent and decrease this abuse
- 2018's Theme is Healthy Me, Healthy We! a journey of self-love, positivity, and strength
- This theme was selected by members of the Let's Be Real Movement. They hope to inspire healthy relationships by starting with their own health and wellness. They strongly believe that healthy relationships prosper when you are as strong individually as you are as a couple.
Here are some tools to start raising awareness about dating abuse.
- Find your school’s handbook and look for their Title IX information and harassment policies
- Start with resources like victimconnect, breakthecycle and rainn for finding laws in your state
- Learn about the five types of abuse here.
- Start thinking about boundaries with these handouts.
- Take this healthy relationship quiz.
- Young people join the movement to end abuse with Let's Be Real, and adults join the Love Is Not Abuse coalition
- Develop a safety plan. See example here.
- If you think a friend is experiencing or perpetrating abusive behaviors, there are ways you can help.
- Learn how to start a conversation about abuse with Break the Cycle's "How to Start a Conversation Guide".
Educate Your Community:
- Do a quick google search of your county to find what services are available in your area.
- Download the It's Time To Talk guide for relationship conversation starters.
- Learn more about the warning signs of dating abuse.
Learn more: Dating Abuse Statistics