• Setting limits is good parenting. Children, no matter the age, are more confident when parents establish boundaries.
• It’s their job, too. Encourage your teens to think for themselves, and stand up to pressure from peers.
• Explain the options. “You can go out with friends after you finish your chores.” This lets your teen know what has to happen to earn privileges.
• Use questions. Questions promote problem-solving — “How are you going to fix this?” Discuss situations calmly, and don’t lose your cool.
• Don’t give in. Limits only work when they are enforced consistently.
• They’ll be better adults. Teens may push the limits, but the results are strong, independent and responsible adults.

To Learn More...

The Center for the Improvement of Child Caring, www.ciccparenting.org
Parenting Teens, www.parentingteens.com
“Trouble–Free Teens, Smart Suggestions for Parenting your Pre-Teen, " Jim Fay and Foster W. Cline, M.D.
“Parenting Teens with Love and Logic, Preparing Adolescents for Responsible Adulthood," Jim Fay and Foster W. Cline, M.D.
“Parenting Teenagers,” Don Dinkmeyer and Gary D. McCay

For More Direct Help...

The Family Conservancy, 913-342-1110
Catholic Charities, 816-221-4377
Jewish Family and Children’s Services, 816-333-1172